Let’s face it, bullying has always been around in one form or another in our Western society but it seems like these days there is more bullying than ever.
I am talking mostly about kids but whatever applies to kids usually applies to adults but in a more subtle way.
Adults are better at hiding or disguising bullying, they become more skilled at manipulation and innuendo.
Bullying happens when we are perceived to be different from the pack. This could be, perceived weakness, ugly or weird in some way, or even having a different name or ethnic background, there are many reasons.
A friend of mine who is almost 7ft tall was kicked and punched in the back because he was tall as a kid. He now plays pro basketball.
If your child is being bullied at school you need to take action, or the problem is not going to miraculously disappear.
One thing we teach our junior Kung Fu students is to always stand tall and look people in the eye. This helps with the child’s self esteem and confidence and also helps with the way your child is perceived.
If you know your child is experiencing bullying, one thing you can try is the superhero stance, as I like to call it. When you’re at home with them, get he or she to think of their favourite superhero and copy how they stand and remember how it feels to stand in that position of power. He or she can use that memory if they start to feel unsure or insecure.
This has a powerful physical effect on the body as the brain chemistry releases potent hormones that actually make you feel better. So help them to practice standing strong, walking tall and looking straight ahead.
Try it yourself when you’re feeling unsure or insecure.